On last night’s Watch What Happens Live!, host Andy Cohen called out the Housewives’ frequent use of the phrase “my gays” on the reality show (a charge he presented along with a montage of cringeworthy moments). Calling this “a teachable moment,” he calmly explained that it really isn’t okay to call your BFFs “my gays.” “They are not yours,” he explained. “You do not own them. We are not cattle. We are not purses.” And now you know not to learn life lessons from The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.