How to Be a Good ‘Friend,’ According to Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello

Just two people doing totally normal, friendly things. Photo: Camila Cabello/Instagram

If real life was a high-school rom-com, Camila Cabello would be standing by her locker, barely listening to boyfriend Austin Mahone (remember him?) when the beige double doors breeze open and in strides Shawn Mendes. She catches his eye and he grins. In real life, though, Camila and Shawn are international pop stars, nascent as they were when they first met, and, more importantly, just friends. “Just friends” gets thrown around a lot in pop culture, but Camila and Shawn might be the ones who tease fans the most with it. And we’re living in a post–Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga world. With Camila officially ending things with her dating-expert boyfriend as of this week (spoiler!), mere days after her and Shawn’s extremely non-platonic “Señorita” video dropped, maybe she and Shawn will finally be endgame. Until then, let’s obsess over their online correspondence.

July 26, 2014: Camila and Shawn meet while on Austin Mahone’s summer tour. They are 16, 17, and 18 years old. Over the short few months, Austin and Camila date; Shawn learns to play the guitar.

“When we were on tour together, I never saw him,” Camila later told Variety about her limited interactions with Shawn. “He would go to his tour bus and practice guitar, then go onstage, and then go back and practice guitar. He’s the most dedicated, driven person I know.”

September 10, 2014: Camila and Shawn send an impressive array of cringey tweets back and forth. Don’t read if you still have anxiety dreams about high school — this is just that. Being a good friend starts with accepting the other person for who they are and, luckily for them, they were both terrible tweeters.

November 14, 2014: Andy Cohen, the king of mess, straight-up asks Fifth Harmony which one of them is dating the “Mahonie.” Camila reluctantly raises her hand, confirming her relationship on Watch What Happens Live.

November 25, 2014: Less than two weeks later, Camila confirms her breakup with Austin Mahone. On the bright side, she didn’t announce an engagement or anything.

July 11, 2015: Camila freaks out at Taylor Swift’s 1989 tour, with opening act Shawn Mendes (and Vance Joy and Haim, but let’s focus). Then, the duo write their first (but definitely not last) collaboration, “I Know What You Did Last Summer,” backstage. By now Shawn has successfully learned to play the guitar and can actually use it for its intended purpose: romance.

July 25, 2015: Their friendship gets stronger and even more public. Stans are normally a little presumptive, but who wouldn’t read this as flirting?

August 17, 2015: Friendships, like all good relationships, are built on a foundation of mutual support. Camila and Shawn’s foundation is massive. Camila was one of 6,000 fans supporting him as he debuted two new songs while headlining at L.A.’s Greek Theatre.

August 25, 2015: Shawn decides to learn Spanish and she offers to teach him. In return, he teaches her guitar. This is absolutely and obviously not a ploy to spend more time together.

September 1, 2015: At these little bilingual jam seshes, they recorded covers like this “Say My Name”/”Give Me Love” mash-up. A hint at collabs to come.

September 4, 2015: The tweets do not stop, but they’re all sort of about the same thing.

September 20, 2015: Shawn Mendes photobombs Camila on a red carpet. Peep the palpable awkwardness of a friendship that takes place mostly through the internet. (You know what I’m talking about, Gen Z.)

But by the end of the night, they get a little cozy. Not “Señorita” cozy, but we’re getting there.

November 18, 2015: After a month or so of teasing fans, the duo drops “I Know What You Did Last Summer.” It’s the pop-star equivalent to when you and your friends are like, “Yes, we should totally start a podcast. Your [insert skill] with my [insert skill]?” except this goes platinum.

November 23, 2015: They vehemently deny their relationship to James Corden. We already know Camila cracks under pressure from a late-night host. Guess she’s telling the truth this time.

December 4, 2015: Shawn posts this candid video of Camila knowing the right chords to a song. All of his lessons paid off.

December 2015 on: Throughout the winter, Camila and Shawn take “IKWYDLS” everywhere. They perform on The Late Late Show, The Ellen Show, and the Peoples’ Choice Awards.

And then things die down.

March 27, 2017: Shawn posts a throwback video of the two of them singing.

May 19, 2017: He also brings back the tweets, this time fawning over her solo career.

September 26, 2017: He loves “Havana” despite not being cast as her love interest in the video. (His time will come.)

October 17, 2017: And he is “so proud” of her.

January 16, 2018:Unbelievably proud.

April 5, 2018: “”I don’t think you’ll ever meet somebody who can feel emotion like her, in all aspects,” Shawn says of Camila. “She can feel hurt like no other, but she can feel love like no other.” This is a thing friends say about each other. Don’t make that face.

May 5, 2018: Hailey Baldwin and Shawn Mendes walk the Met Gala carpet together. She gets engaged two months later. (He’ll later insist they, too, were “just awesome friends” but then go on to clarify that, actually, they were more than “just friends,” they just never defined the situation. He likened it to a “zone of limbo.”)

May 20, 2018: Camila and Shawn are the poster children for those friendships where you never see each other, but when you do it’s only fun. They dance to Ariana Grande’s “No Tears Left to Cry” performance at the Billboard Music Awards like nothing has changed.

February 11, 2019: Camila performs at the Grammys for the first time. The pair reunites but the love doesn’t last.

February 25, 2019: Camila and Matthew Hussey, a British relationship expert, confirm their relationship at the Vanity Fair Oscar party. It’s no Met Gala and that’s all we have to say.

June 21, 2019: After ten months of begging her to collab and sending supportive tweets, Camila and Shawn drop “Señorita” and its bordering-on-NSFW video in which the two play a couple who are decidedly not “just friends.” (They wind up in a motel room is all we’ll say.) The lyrics “You say we’re just friends / But friends don’t know the way you taste” practically force us to write this timeline.

June 24, 2019: Despite somehow being more romantic that the actual music video, the behind-the-scenes from “Señorita” convinces us that Shawn and Camila are just friends. At some point, we have to consider that there’s too much history. At some point, we have to actually acknowledge Camila’s long-term relationship.

June 25, 2019: And then, a bomb. Sources confirm Camila Cabello and Matthew Hussey have broken up. We’re back in it, baby.

August 8, 2019: After spending all summer holding hands in Los Angeles, making out in Miami, and doing both in New York City, Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello celebrate his 21st birthday with a party. Camila posts a sweet birthday shout-out on her Instagram, saying she loves him. Okay, but love love? Or just love?

This post has been updated throughout.

How to Be a Good Friend Like Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello